If it truly takes a village to raise a child, why do we mothers often feel like we live on a deserted island — and that society views us as the village idiots?
With a combined 33 years of mothering experience, we’ve learned a thing or two about what moms need. Having been needy more times than we can count over that time span, we can’t in good conscience ignore the struggles and challenges of other mothers.
The callous attitude of “I figured it out myself. You’ll have to do the same” should have been retired along with the “washboard-at-the-river” method of doing laundry.
Modern mothering should be a collaborative experience. In motherhood, too many cooks do NOT spoil the pot.
Motherhood as a status — an accomplishment to check off a list — is valued by society. Motherhood as a calling, however, doesn’t rate very high. Raising children in a serious and responsible way is ridiculously overwhelming. And it feels lonely because the commitment and ultimate accountability is between you and God. Still, isolation is an invention of the Enemy, not the Creator.
Every time a female friend describes her latest vacation, promotion or degree earned, the spit up that just ran down your chest can feel as warm as your burning resentment.
A seasoned mom helps you understand that resentment is a really a sign of lack of support, isolation and fatigue. The blanket of female friendship can smother those feelings before they consume you and snuff out the joy of your decision to become a mother.
Do you sense we’re on our soapbox? That’s because we’ve always been homeless. We’ve never had a village. We’ve been solo travelers looking for tour guides since we gave birth to our first children.
But at some point we all have to look at the strengths and weaknesses of our environment, decide what we need and actively try to seek ways to find the ingredients we weren’t given and create our own mothering recipe. Ultimately, your unique recipe only has to taste good to you and your Creator. After all, He is the one who first called you into the kitchen.