Today, we are so excited to welcome on board our sweet, very amusing Kiwi friend, Simone Graham of Greatfun4kidsblog.com! Simone has agreed to be a Regular MOMtor on Mothering From Scratch and will be posting her sassy wit and wisdom here every other month. She is a ton of fun and is full of amazing ideas to make family-life lively and joyful!
There’s an old saying that goes, “It takes a village to raise a child.”
Early on in my mothering days I lamented over this saying, feeling sad that with out-of-town grannies and aunties, there was nobody close to lend a hand to a struggling new mom. In these days of urban living and scattered families, “villages” seemed to be in short supply.
A few years on, I feel differently. I still live amongst urban sprawl, my family is still scattered to the four corners of the earth, grannies and aunties are still in short supply. But little by little, I’m building a Village of my own.
It’s made up of school moms, church moms, soccer team moms, coffee group moms, neighbours, and a part-time borrowed granny over the fence.
When my children were little, my parents lived eight hours drive from us and my husband’s family were overseas. I had no idea how I would cope when my third baby was born, with no family on hand to help, and two others to care for as well.
I was astounded as night after night people turned up on my doorstep with meals, baby clothes, and offers of help. They supported me with such generosity that I didn’t need to cook a meal for three whole weeks.
This was my village in action.
Some friends came with not just one meal, but with bags and boxes of them. These gifted and generous women make a habit of spreading their good cooking around. They seem to always have something frozen or freshly baked on hand to drop off to a sick friend, or new mom. I am in awe of these Domestic Giants.
I have to admit, I had not always been the first one round with a batch of muffins or a pie, but after that experience I was inspired to up my meal-making, muffin-baking game.
There is something incredibly powerful in that seemingly simple gift of a meal or home baking. It comes with love. It says, Hey, you matter. I’m here for you, you’re not forgotten.
We may live in a very different world from our grannies, where the village was just over the fence, but the old saying is still true – and we still need each other.
Our Village may look a little different, but it can be just as supportive, just as real.
I have discovered a wonderful community of women through blogging. When we discovered that my daughter was gluten-intolerant, I was amazed to receive a box of gluten-free treats from a reader inAustralia. Later I met this woman in real life and she has become a dear friend, despite the distance.
A Village of like-hearted people is created by investing time in friendships, and reaching out with kindness.
The thing is, it takes time to build one.
Many new mothers struggle with the isolation of their new role.
Reach out. Connect with others, even if it’s online.
Start building a Village now with muffins, meals, play dates, phone calls, emails, a card…
Then one day when you most need it, you’ll find you have a wonderful Village supporting you after all.
Simone Graham is mom to Joshua (9), Abby (8) and Jono (4). She blogs at Greatfun4kidsblog.com.
Simone with her motley crew!