As mothers, don’t we fret and worry over every little decision on our parenting path? I do.
Nurse or bottle? Daycare or stay home? Go organic? Let them wear this? Forbid that?
Teach a life lesson?
Let go and let them fail?
Too much? Too little?
Sleep in my bed? Ground them? Punish them?
Allow certain things? Banish friends? Change activities? Start new ones?
Give them allowance? Pay them for chores? Make them go to church? Give in? Fight the fight?
Teach them this? Ignore that? Change meds? Start new meds? Go to the doctor?
Send them to school? Call this parent? Call the teacher? Allow this? Discourage that?
The list of our constant decision-making process is endless…
And yet, sometimes we question if we made the right choice. Sometimes we can’t see the results clearly. Sometimes, we just hope and pray it was the right thing to do.
There are times, when our decisions can be life changing for our children. We sweat and moan and pray and worry over what is the best path to take on our parenting journey. Those are the hardest choices and the heaviest burdens to bear. And yet, if we trust our mother instincts, lift up our concerns in prayer and ask for His guidance before we take the dive off the cliff of the turn…
Somehow, it serves an extraordinary purpose.
And perhaps changes the course of our children for the better. We see the fruits of our laborious and perspiring decision-making process unfold.
My daughter changed schools this year. It was such a difficult decision and I painfully processed and prayed through it for months. On the first day of school, I left her standing alone in her fourth grade classroom not knowing anyone, looking anxious and awkward, as I walked away terrified I made the wrong decision.
Six months later, she absolutely loves school and she is doing so well and making friends. What peace that brings me! And what amazing relief and resolve I feel. I made the right decision and her path is forever changed and blessed by the change. Oh there is no greater joy than this! I live every day satisfied at this monumental decision and bask in the glow of her success. We must always embrace these moments… when all the blood, sweat and tears leads us to victory and triumph in our children’s lives.
It may not always work out that way. We may be crushed by failure and gashed with wounds. But I do believe, in every turn there is a reason and a purpose. I believe that with all things, we can grow and find satisfaction in knowing that our decisions are always based on what we believe is best for our children. Have faith dear friends, that your decisions have a purpose for their lives. Trust your gut and trust in Him. And know that God’s plan cannot be thwarted in all you do, when you lift up your child’s life and lovingly place it in our Father’s Hands.
I know that you can do all things;
no plan of yours can be thwarted. Job 42:2
Before having children, Chris Carter worked as a music therapist for several years in Chicago’s inpatient psychiatric hospitals. She also managed creative arts and recreation programming for four group homes, which was an amazing experience. In that time of her life, she learned and grew to know the pain and suffering of so many people.
She is now a stay-at-home mom and currently spends her days running kids to and from school four times a day, volunteering in various kid programs at school and church, and keeping the house in some sort of order! She has a thriving blog, The Mom Cafe, where she regularly shares her mothering experience and wisdom.