“This is useless. I am better than this. I need to do something else.”
I actually voiced these thoughts to a very close friend. What a mistake. She was very close to me, remember? She didn’t hesitate in responding, “Well, then I must be an idiot. I do it all the time. I don’t mind it. It sort of comes with being a mom.”
Have I ever told you how I don’t like it when people that I love are right? The line from The Blind Side comes to mind when Leigh Anne Tuohy admits her loving husband Sean was right and he responds with,
“Excuse me? ‘You’re right’? How’d those words taste coming out of your mouth?”
“Like vinegar,” she responds.
Laundry still tastes like vinegar to me.
But here’s the kicker– It wasn’t going away. It wasn’t going to get washed, dried, folded and put away (ok, maybe just the first three) by itself. I was the mom at home.
It was my job——
for now. But not forever.
Most of mothering is reflected in those five words. The work of mothering needs to be done “for now. But not forever.”
When you feel that you are missing out on life or not fulfilling,
that you should some how be doing more,
that you should be doing something else,
look at your kids when they are sleeping. Look at them and know that it is “for now. But not forever.”
try to make peace with what blessings God has given you….
find purpose in the good work of motherhood…. it’s noble and you know it. It’s time to embrace it more.
Keep your other dreams and aspiration for when now is over and next begins.
They aren’t going anywhere, your dreams. Your kids are going everywhere, all the time,
but not forever.
God’s promise of life on this earth is similar. It is for now. But not forever. I have choices of how to spend both my now and my forever. My prayer is that I spend both with our Lord. It’s what I was created to do. That and be a wife and mother.
Will you join me?
We can support each other through our nows as moms, making our forevers easier to see.
We can help each other through encouragement and ministering to one another when we are in need.
We can change our perspective of our dreams and ambitions to be God’s and not our own.
What is one way you can view your dreams and ambitions in a different light while tending to the tasks of mothering?