It wasn’t really about the cute little outfits or the sparkly pompoms.
No, what I found simultaneously fascinating and annoying was their perpetual perkiness, confidence and coordination.
I was reserved, insecure and clumsy. It was an undeniable fact.
But my sophomore year in high school, I convinced myself that I had what it took to become a “Tigerette.”
A Tigerette wasn’t exactly a cheerleader. She was more like a cheerleader/pep squad/dancer all wrapped into one.
A perfect fit for the wallflower with two left feet — and a serious rhythm deficit.
You know those obnoxiously cringe-worthy audition reels they show on reality performance shows? Yeah. That was my audition.
I seriously don’t know what kind of astounding state of denial I was in, but it abruptly came to an end when I shimmied to Van Halen’s “Jump!” and it came across as a badly conceived comedy routine.
Whenever we try to be someone other than who we are, the results range from insincere to disastrous. That applies to blogging as well. We might think we can “fake” it because we’re safely behind a computer screen, but the truth eventually surfaces. Trying to be someone else just becomes too exhausting.
Below are a few suggestions to blog within your personality (no pom poms required):
Do it your way. Several years ago, I had another blog. It seemed like every blogging article I read back then stressed the importance of blogging daily. I tried. I really did. After two years of frustration and falling short, I burned out. I wasn’t having any fun. This blog, which launched almost a year ago, is a partnership. Kathy and I share the writing and creativity load. We enlisted some awesome guest posters to write here regularly. I’ve found joy in blogging again. I had to have support. I couldn’t go it alone. That is how I roll.
Use your voice. For example, if you’re not naturally funny, don’t force it. I adore the hilarious Dose of Reality girls, and I’m told I’m pretty funny, but I couldn’t duplicate their style of humor. I have to be me. But that doesn’t mean we should “let it all hang out.” Just like it’s not wise to verbalize every thought we have in our real-life relationships, it’s also not wise to “tell all” on our blogs. It hangs out there for all time. One day, our kids and/or husbands will be reading our blogs. Venting or revealing embarrassing or funny anecdotes may feel good at the time, but whatever short-term payoff we receive is not worth the long-term damage to relationships.
Follow your passion. Write what moves you. Readers respond and are motivated by people with passion. I know craft, couponing and DIY blogs are quite popular. But the only thing I’m interested in “doing myself” is calling someone to do it for me. We shouldn’t write what we think will bring the most traffic or buzz if it’s not true to who we are. Our readership will grow because of our authenticity, commitment and passion for the message that’s in our hearts.