This week for “Tell-Me-How Tuesday,” we’re so excited to have the wisdom of Raquel of Organized Island. She’s sharing her wisdom about how to calm the chaos in our mothering schedules:
Do you ever feel like you are racing through life at breakneck speed? I think as women, we tend to pile up our to-do lists in attempts to help everyone in our family meet their needs. We nourish, encourage, support and promote our family because we are mothers and we love them. Being a mom is the best job in the world right?
I think it is, but it can also be overwhelming at times. When the kids are young, we are lucky enough to get a shower in and put the kids down for a nap. When they get older we are assisting them with homework and their extra curricular activities. We schedule play dates, outings, help them with homework and cheer them on at events. Before you know it, they become young adults and we are helping them with college tours, financial aid applications and job searches.
I wanted to share a few tips that I have learned over the years through my experience as a mom of two (now 19 and 22), that have helped me enjoy (almost) every moment, while still accomplishing what needs to be done.
To Do List – make your to do list, and add in deadlines. Schedule the deadlines before they are due so that you are not running around at the last minute. You might use a paper or electronic calendar system, or a combination of both.
Eliminate/Delegate – Do not hesitate to ask a friend to help you when you need it. People like to help, it makes us
feel good. Work out a carpool schedule or trade favors for each other, you both will be better off for it. If your child is old enough to bake those cupcakes for their group, have them participate. If you need to bring food for an activity, sporting event or meeting, purchase something easy instead of making it yourself. Don’t feel like every bake sale item has to be
Prioritize – You are going to be asked to volunteer a lot while your kids are growing up – team mom, troop leader, fundraising chair, PTA president, school volunteer, etc. I think is is important to help out and volunteer. Pick out a couple of causes that are important to you and say yes, then say no to the rest. Believe me, the opportunity (or a similar one) will arise again.
Schedule Downtime – Set up some time in the morning or during the day for yourself. We cannot be the best for others if we do not feel our best. The end of the day does not count because you will be so tired, you probably will not feel energized. There will be days when you cannot do this, but you will feel better if you have a little break in your daily
Be Flexible – Even with the most organized plans, things will happen unexpectedly. Realize when an opportunity to be flexible presents itself and take advantage of it. Your reaction when things do not go as you planned are being watched by your kids, even if you do not think they are.
Thank you to Mothering From Scratch for letting me stop by today. Come by and say hello when you can! You can find me at Organized Island.