We are so excited to have LaToya Edwards as our guest blogger today. LaToya is on the Moms Together team with me (Melinda). She is an awesome mama and has an incredible gift of encouragement. Today, she shares from her experience as a single mom, but I think her words can inspire every mom.
by LaToya Edwards, Guest Blogger
The one thing that I think all moms struggle with is how to get everything done each day. This is especially true for single moms because everything falls on their plates. I’m a single mom. But I’m also a homeschooler, blogger, grad student, and a ministry partner. I have so many plates spinning that often before the end of the week they have all crashed to the ground and shattered into a million pieces.
One day I sat in my room (hiding from my responsibilities) and cried. I couldn’t do it. Every dish and piece of clothing in my house was dirty. I had five writing projects due, my boys were trying to kill each other and there was no food in the house.
Single moms have you been there?
Are you there right now?
Here’s my secret to managing everything: Get your priorities in order!
We can’t do anything without grace and guidance from the Lord. When I’m ready to pull my hair out or sell my boys to the circus usually it’s a time when I’m not spending with my bible or in prayer. Taking even 5 minutes each morning to focus on Him and to pray about my day makes all the difference. Yes, my boys still act up and I get behind on laundry but it doesn’t push me over the edge.
Your next priority should be your children. If you take the time during the day to let your kids know that you love them and they are important to you it makes all the difference. I have found that often my boys’ misbehavior gets worse when I’ve been focusing on other things. They want my attention so bad they’ll risk being disciplined to get it. It doesn’t have to be anything too time consuming or expensive. Sit down and read a book, paint a picture, watch their favorite show or just talk.
Now that you’ve had your God time and loved on your children you are ready to tackle the house. If you struggle with perfection like I do this may be hard to wrap your mind around. I have learned to settle for a dirty kitchen if it means that I can take 30 minutes for a round of Chutes and Ladders with my boys. The dishes will still be there when they go to bed but I can’t ever get those 30 minutes with them back. If you really must do housework then include your children. Have them help in the kitchen or fold laundry!
Titus 2 calls for women to be busy in the home before anywhere else. This applies to us single moms as well. If you look at #1-3 you’ll notice that the focus is on family. This should always be our priority! For me it meant that I didn’t have time to teach a Sunday School class because I needed to be focusing the time I was preparing lessons on spending time my boys and tackling my chores in home. There will be a season when you have more time to minister outside your home; it just might not be right now.
LaToya is a single, homeschooling mom of two bouncing boys. She lives for the quiet moments of the day which are few and far between with two rambunctious young men running around the house. She strives each day to life fully for God and although she often falls short she is determined to stay the course. She wants to encourage women to follow God’s direction for their lives no matter the circumstances. You can keep up with LaToya on her blog, Twitter, Facebook, and Google Plus.