Do you still see yourself as a “temple of the Holy Spirit” after becoming a mom?
Through our bodies and minds, we minister to our children’s needs. Now more than ever, it’s important to remember that we are still a temple of the Holy Spirit.
Over the years, I have watched myself and many other moms negotiate their self-care away—
We weigh the options of “this” over “that”.
We ask ourselves is this a need verses a want.
What are your “non-negotiables” for mommy self-care?
They will change a bit over time, but here is a short list:
(Don’t let the simplicity fool you. These are the ones most likely to become compromised.)
1. Eat Nutritious Food:
I am passionate about this one. This sounds obvious but you would be surprised about how many women struggle to get good nutrition during the first couple months (or even years) of motherhood. We are usually the ones preparing the food. That’s just reality. If you are lucky enough to have someone in your life worrying about the food that goes into YOUR mouth, consider yourself lucky. Also, give them a big, fat kiss on the lips.
When we do the cooking, we get to choose — most of the time. When other people make special requests, a small amount of accomodation is ok but recreating a whole other meal is really out of the question.
Therefore, teach everyone to cook. Learn to cook well yourself. You will only benefit from it by having food you enjoy. Teaching your family to cook benefits you as well. Start with dishes and things that they already love. The goal is for them to be able to replicate this for themselves.
2. Showers Which Include Soap And Water:
Obvious right? My mother drilled this into my head my whole life. I honestly thought she was being dramatic—until I had my first baby. She exaggerates about a few things, but she nailed this one:
“I always woke up, did my hair (no small feat for my mom, she has a classic updo), put on my make-up and bathed everyday—whether I was going to see no one that day but myself and my children. It made me feel human.”
She has valid points here. If you were a girly-girl before you had children, you will not suddenly become a no-make-up-au-naturel-24-hour-pony-tail beauty over night.
What makes you feel good about your appearance? When you pass a mirror in your home and see yourself, are you going to somehow be disappointed if there is not red lipstick on your lips (Huh, Melinda?) If so, buy 6 tubes and strategically place them all over the house so this doesn’t happen. Just don’t let your other kids find them!
3. Restorative Sleep:
There is good news and bad news regarding this. I’m going to say this as lovingly as possible:
Sleep when you can. Period. I have had to make the choice between food and sleep and have chosen sleep (with something to eat in my bed) when times were rough with little ones. With sleep, you can pretty much do anything, so coveting it is always worth your while.
God loves us and calls us to be temples. We should show Him that we love what He loves too. That includes ourselves.
Go forth, mommas! Show some respect for your Maker!
Eat, shower and sleep!