Romans 12:2 “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”
However, we are moms in this world.
Being “in it and not of it” is very difficult when we are searching for peace.
Often the culprit is overstimulation.
It makes me one inattentive, irritable and irrational momma. Just ask my family what I act like on a day when I have been shot at all day by demands, noise and tasks.
I wanted to share with you some of the strategies which have helped.
5 ways to get a little peace:
1. Clear your mind.
Writing down everything that is in your mind is one of the best strategies I have found over the years of decluttering my thoughts. As moms, we think of everyone, everything, all the time.
Our minds can get a little, shall we say, scattered.
My two favorite tools: post-it notes and yellow legal pads. They are both excellent backhoes for the brain.
Simply getting every single solitary idea, thought, concern or problem out of my mind onto a piece of paper frees up all the synapses in my brain.
I can walk away from it.
Then, come back to it . It’s miraculous how I can give order to it–dividing it up into categories on a master to-do list. FYI: Some of the strangest things on my master list right now: #20 Buy a new bed pillow and #14 Get some decent fitting bras.
I don’t have to remember anything. It’s on my list!
2. Get some quiet.
Now, I’m not crazy. (Ok. A little.) I know that any house with kids in it is hardly ever quiet. In fact, when my house is quiet, often something is wrong.
I have been known to use earplugs and headphones. Both of these don’t block out 100 percent of the noise but they help. I have a snoring spouse so I started using earplugs when I was getting less sleep from his snoring than from the babies around us.
I also found that on a particular fussy day with little babies, dulling out some of the noise helped me hold them longer while they were crying for whatever reason (i.e.growth spurt while nursing, ear infection, etc.).
I am a very light sleeper so when I was sleeping in the same room as an infant or toddler, I used them so I didnt hear every single grunt, groan,sigh,rollover that babies make.
Headphones are very useful when you need a little help in the quiet department. I have three musicians in my household who need to practice — a drummer, a guitar player and a piano player. What do I play on my headphones when I need quiet? White noise. It helps keep me stay calm so that when they are done, I’m not pulling my hair out or twitching.
3. Get up early.
So much easier said than done. Coffee or tea is your friend on this one. If you can get up just 30 minutes earlier than your kids, it is the equivalent to 3 hours of quiet time. How do you think I am writing this post right now?
Coffee. No really, just getting up early…and coffee.
4. Reduce the noise from non-humans in your life.
Houses can be brimming with noise from other things besides humans–especially tvs or radios. If you struggle getting some quiet time, turn these things off when you do have those rare moments. In the car, keep the radio off.
I found that by the end of the day (which for most moms is the time when overstimulation hits its peak), I am less irritated.
5. Get outside.
The sounds of nature are soothing–a vast difference than what inside spaces have to offer. I need to improve on this one myself. Looking out our windows is not the same as sitting outside of them.
These tips will help with getting a little worldly peace. But remember…….
True peace — is only promised through Our Lord.
John 14:7 “Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Do not let your heart be troubled, nor let it be fearful.”
This post is part of our eight-week series, “Spirited Mom: A Fruity Look at Mothering.” We’re focusing on a different Fruit of the Spirit each week, as it applies to mothering.