On one of the many forums I participate in, our leader recently posted a thought provoking question.
What’s the kindest thing anyone has ever done for you?
I had the honor of reading the stories of kindness shared by 17 other women. It was awe inspiring and humbling to read.
One woman shared the story of a friend bailing her out when she had overdrawn her bank account in her early twenties.
Another woman shared the story of how she returned home to find that someone else had finished the laundry room remodel she had started and been unable to finish.
A third woman shared the story of homemade cookies that were baked and delivered by a sympathetic friend.
While all of our stories were different, they shared a common theme.
Each of us remembered how someone reached out to us when we needed it most, and how we were unexpectedly helped or encouraged in a surprising way we would never have thought to even ask for. Most of us used the word “blessing” as we told our stories.
We all agreed: kindness is the act of making God’s love tangible and real to others.
My own story was the result of other women living out Proverbs 31:26 “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” Here’s what I shared with my forum:
The biggest kindness I received was when I was in MOPS. It was shortly after I’d started staying home with kids, and I was really struggling with the transition.
I’d worked in an all male environment with a bunch of geeks and engineers. Suddenly finding myself surrounded by women instead was a shock to say the least.
I made a LOT of social missteps because I’d forgotten how differently women interact. It was frustrating for me because I knew I was unintentionally hurting people’s feelings. I was just that out of practice.
My assigned group of ladies was so sweet and patient with me. They taught me firsthand what it means when women show Grace to one another.
I’ll never forget the kindness and patience they showed me. I honestly don’t think I would have stuck with my dream of being a SAHM without their understanding, love, and support.
In a very real way, their kindness helped me make my dreams come true.
See? Other women made God’s love for me tangible and real. The result in my life was amazing beyond description.
It was from those women that I began to understand Ephesians 4:32: “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Kindness, when spread liberally, is the salve that soothes. It heals. In the face of kindness, drama disappears and anger diffuses.
In the years since I’ve become a stay-at-home mom, I’ve learned to trust in kindness. It may not be my first instinctive reaction, but it IS something I can choose to do. My frequent prayer is that I have “kindness on my tongue.”
I’ve never said words of kindness that I regretted later.
Houston Mom Blogger Susan Baker writes at ThisHappyMom and has a passion for encouraging weary worn out moms to find joy in everyday motherhood. She has two elementary school boys, one engineering husband, and one cat. She has a strange fascination for eggs, socks, and books. She spends far too much time on Social Media and at Target. She is crazy in love with her family. She serves an amazing God. She lives an ordinary life filled with wonder.
This post is part of our 8-week series, “Spirited Mom: A Fruity Look at Mothering,” where we’re exploring the Fruits of the Spirit as they apply to mothering.