I assume most of you reading this post spend some serious time in the “on-line’ world. It’s a powerful resource us moms can use for almost anything and everything isn’t it?
I dive pretty deep in these waters and I tread lightly over some dark cold pockets, being careful not to hover too long- or get pulled under.There is negativity everywhere in this world, and the online world seems to me to be a serpent’s empire filled with some serious hissing.Over the years, I have developed a system of sorts to help me hold the integrity of who I am, while treading the sometimes deep dark waters that may call me to be otherwise.
Whether I am posting on social media, or writing my own article, I tend to take a long hard “pause” before I hit publish. There are so many times I end up deleting what I was going to post, or editing it dramatically… because something just doesn’t sit well within my heart.
Whenever I feel that “tug” of question, I know I may regret publishing something that was impulsive and often innocent – but here’s the deal: I always re-read it, taking on the perspective of a total stranger who doesn’t know me. What would they take from my words? What message am I sending about myself? Will my thoughts be misconstrued or twisted in a way that does not speak respect? Integrity my friends, stay true to your integrity. I believe this call is not just for us mamas, but for everyone who holds honor within who they are.
There are three questions I always ask myself, before I delve into hitting that publish button:
Am I using discernment? Would this be okay with God? Am I representing something that aligns with my faith? Does is speak from my values or does it stray from His Truth?
Am I using discretion? Are the words I am using to make my point careless? (Often they are!) Do I pick each word with intention? Publishing humorous or snarky comments to get a point across, sometimes is a fleeting thought that has a punch – but the sting lingers forever on line.
Am I being deliberate? I am such an impulsive person in real life!I can say and do the most ridiculous things! Everyone I know privately understands my crazy ways and they see the harmless love behind them- but this may appear differently on line. Even though I want to convey who I am (that is a big part of me!), I need to be deliberate in how I approach expressing my goofy side.
I also want to be deliberate in how I respond to others, with absolute respect.I always try to make my statements clear and communicate my message through a loving humility always honoring other people’s voice.It is NOT my place to judge, only His.So I try my best to encourage, not discourage.To engage, not disengage.To support, not segregate.Amen?
There are endless avenues to explore in this on- line world, as mothers and as women of God. There is support and strength to be found. There are beautiful networks of amazing people to discover and so many wonderful sites to take in! I have found an incredible bounty of riches in this world. I have grown and learned so much about others and myself, as I navigate the endless sea of opportunity.
Some of my greatest blessings have come from people I have had the privilege to know online, and I have learned that you really can cultivate true friendships that are authentic and intimate.I am so deeply grateful for that!
What is your experience with the online world? I would love to know your thoughts on this important topic…
Before having children, Chris Carter worked as a music therapist for several years in Chicago’s inpatient psychiatric hospitals. She also managed creative arts and recreation programming for four group homes. In that time of her life, she learned and grew to know the pain and suffering of so many people. She is now a stay-at-home mom and currently spends her days running kids to and from school four times a day, volunteering and keeping the house in some sort of order! She has a thriving blog, The Mom Cafe, where she regularly shares her mothering experience and wisdom.