In Harper’s Bazaar United Kingdom May 2014‘s. Actress Kirsten Dunst had the gall to speak in favor of motherhood and femininity.
This time, it’s motherhood being valuable.
Isn’t that OK?
Haven’t we been fighting for decades for recognition of our “Feminine Mystique”?
For the record, The Feminine Mystique messed with my mind as a college student. There I was educating myself, doing the one thing Betty Friedman said would, be the “key to (unlock) the trap of motherhood”.
…But I wanted to become a mom just as much as I wanted anything else in life.
I felt like God was calling me to parenthood.
Then, there’s Kirsten…..
“Kirsten Dunst is surprisingly outspoken on the subject of gender: ‘I feel like the feminine has been a little undervalued,’ she says. ‘We all have to get our own jobs and make our own money, but staying at home, nurturing, being the mother, cooking – it’s a valuable thing my mum created. And sometimes, you need your knight in shining armour. I’m sorry. You need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman. That’s why relationships work…’
Betty Friedman fans are freaking out about now. Or they are just confused like I was. After all, Kirsten is right. Like it or not, we need a man to be a man and a woman to be a woman — or none of us would be here.
For this is why I have called myself a Recovering Feminist. In the late 80’s, I found myself exposed to a National Organization for Women booth on the campus of Florida State University. Everything they said seemed to make sense to a naive 18 year old embarking on her first independent journey.
Unfortunately, they really weren’t promoting real liberation of women, but rather a much larger trap — even bigger than the one Betty called motherhood — of ideologies which included being enslaved by our sexuality and thinking that our femininity was an awful liability.
Only God can remove those chains of entrapped thinking. He liberates and elevates us as women to heights that even we don’t comprehend.