But what does being a “good” mom really mean anyway? Everyone has a different definition. And even our own definition of what it means to be a good mom can change from moment to moment!
One Mothers’ Day a few years ago, my pastor challenged the moms in the audience to shift our focus from trying to become a good mom to becoming a godly woman instead.
He explained that when our drive and desire is to know God more deeply and to love and please Him, the result will show up in our mothering in a big way.
Our choices will be more God-driven. We’ll more naturally demonstrate the fruits of the Spirit — things like love, patience and self-control. What mom couldn’t use more of those?
Life is busy. We get distracted and discouraged easily. So, focusing on becoming a more godly woman requires a plan. We have to be deliberate. Or else our good intentions just get buried under a pile of laundry or lost in the shuffle of home and work responsibilities, car pool duties and taking kids to soccer practice.
Here are five ways to feed our mom soul so we can become more of the woman and mom God created us to be:
Have a devotional book handy.
My kids are teens now, but when they were younger, I spent a lot of time in the car. Like half my life. I tried to keep a devotional book and Bible handy in the car, so I could take advantage of those small pockets of downtime while I waited in the parent pickup line or for soccer practice to end.
When they were really small, I kept a devotional book in a basket in the bathroom for those times when I was actually able to be in the bathroom alone!
Keep Scriptures around the house.
Find verses that help encourage you in the season or struggle you’re experiencing right now. Tape them to your mirror and/or the sun visor of your car. It’s amazing how those little, but powerful, truths throughout the day can change our perspective and keep us encouraged.
Pick a book of the Bible and read it 20 times.
Someone recently told me that she read that it takes reading a book of the Bible 20 times before we truly internalize it. Apparently, that’s when the magic happens and we are able to gain new, deeper insights from the Holy Spirit.
That can sound overwhelming. Start small. The book of James is a great place to start. It is a short book and it is packed full of amazing, challenging and practical truths.
Focus on a chapter or passage to read.
Grab your Bible commentary. It provides so much insight about the historical context. You learn what scholars have to say about why the writer used certain imagery and metaphors.
I can’t tell you how much this enriches your understanding of the Scripture.
Go through a Bible study either in a group or by yourself.
When the kids are small, it is hard to get together with a small group to do a Bible study. Do it if you can! We can learn so much for each other. And it provides a level of accountability that we often need (at least I do!)
However, if it’s just not possible right now, don’t hesitate to buy a Bible study book and go through it by yourself at your own pace. Better yet, ask a friend to do it with you. Even if you can’t get together in person, you can still talk about what you’re learning over the phone.
God wants to meet you where you are. In all it’s busyness and messiness. He knows the mom you long to be. He sees your heart.
We can never be truly good. But thankfully, He always is.
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