And how about the lunch room? It was like anxiety contained within walls that smelled of frozen pizza and spoiled milk.
Who to sit with? Who to talk to?
Who will sit with me? Who will talk to me? Awful, really.
When polled, I’m pretty certain my high school friends and current friends would say that I’m a confident person. I was just having a conversation with a couple of moms of my daughters’ friends and they had a much higher opinion about me than I had about myself.
They see me as comfortable in my own skin, able to (apparently) solve problems on the spot and assert myself in situations where needed. What they didn’t understand is that most of the time I did those things because of control issues. I wanted it done a certain way. I wanted to make sure it’s done well. I couldn’t let go and let someone else take care of it. It makes me….
I have learned over the years that it is precisely in this level of uncomfortableness that God moves mountains in my heart. It enables me to loosen the reigns of control over my life. My heartstrings can be strummed by The Almighty only when they aren’t held so darn tight. He is able to shape and mold me only when I allow my pliability to enter His loving hands and let go.
Here’s some of the beauty that comes from giving up control:
1. I can relax. When the fibers of my being are more pliable, I exhale. I breathe more deeply, taking in what God has to offer in my life.
2. I can reflect. When I take a couple steps back at look at what’s happening around me, I see things that God is trying to reveal. The slowing down and giving up of my time and energy allows His will to surface and become obvious.
3. I can respond. When I get still for a few moments, I can have more energy to respond better and more appropriately.
Being comfortable in your own skin comes down to understanding how and WHY God may have given you certain gifts and talents.
I read recently in the great ebook On The Road To Joyful Mothering: 31 Meditations to Help You Enjoy the Ride, by Jessica Fisher, that
This is what control issues can be rooted in also —- the great thief of comparison. The one who steals our joy and makes us believe that if we only were like others, we would be happier, our families would be better and our lives would run smoother.
That’s the good news about celebrating the goodness of God’s unique design of us and losing control in a most positive way.
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