We’d crash. Fast.
Mothering is no different a journey — one that is long and full of past instances, past successes, and yes, past failures. In order to move forward in parenting it’s important to recognize the past and keep it in mind, but focus on the road ahead. Otherwise, our forward journey will be unsafe and miscalculated.
The rear view mirror of mothering reminds us of where we’ve been. For me, I’ve been in some strange lands, sometimes lost and confused. Some of them were deep, dark wildernesses that were very hard to navigate. At times, I could barely look forward. I instead focused on what I should’ve done the day before — the day that was always present in the rear view mirror of mothering.
That mirror lies. It tells me that the only thing worth looking at is what I’ve missed, what I’ve messed up, what I should’ve done better.
The rear view mirror of mothering prevents us from looking forward. Ahead of us is always another hour, another day. Another decade, if the need be. Slow and steady movement in a positive direction is all we can do.
Aren’t we are all journeyers? Isn’t mothering a constant trip?
We are all here to learn about this road we were taking on as parents and as Christians. No small trip, really.
Here are a few tips regarding our universal journey as moms, and as Christians:
–Pack light. Keep life simple. It complicates itself enough. Purge unnecessary loads often through prayer, forgiveness and reconciliation.
–Only carry someone else’s burdens a short distance or you won’t be able to carry your own. This is wise advice to all moms. Our kids need us, yes. But building their lives toward independence is our jobs. We can’t do this is we aren’t stable on our own. It’s a continuous, disciplined process.
–And DON’T continuously stare into the rear view mirror of your life. Wherever we’ve been, let it go. Let it get smaller and smaller. Let it disappear.
Looking forward and moving toward God’s plan in our lives can feel scary as a mom. However, it’s a road worth seeking and one that we won’t ever be alone traveling.
How are you moving forward on your mothering journey?