Invisible Wounds: Hope While You’re Hurting chronicles the watershed moments that led me to the healing GOD is now doing in and through me.
Beneath the surface, so many of us are nursing deep physical, spiritual and emotional wounds. We feel isolated in our pain. We feel ashamed or embarrassed to talk about our hidden hurts.
We feel guilty about the private doubts we have about God and His goodness: Where is He? Why would He allow this suffering?
We desperately need support. We crave answers. Fear or shame keeps us quiet.
We live alone with our invisible wounds.
I did. For 20 years.
In Invisible Wounds, I’m tackling the tough spiritual questions and dark, raw emotions I’ve had as I’ve walked this long, lonely, difficult road of chronic pain and illness — both mine and my son’s.
Looking back though, i was asking the wrong questions. Questions like “Why do i have to suffer?” “When will this end?” and “What does GOD want from me?”
GOD slowly began to transform my self-focused questions to the most important question. The question i began to ask that has changed everything: “Who are YOU, GOD?”
How He has revealed HIMSELF to me during and since the writing of this book has filled me with joy, freedom and peace that i can’t describe.
This book doesn’t just tell my story. Seven brave, beautiful women share their invisible wounds in these pages, too. Sharing their pain for this book often brought them to tears. Yet, each one gladly went to some very dark, vulnerable places. They believed God wanted to use their heartache to relieve someone else’s.
Ultimately, each of our difficult roads have led us to the hope that heals.
Mothering From Scratch is my first book.
GOD used parenting struggles to show me that HE is not the god of formulas. HE has a unique path and approach for each of us and our children.
Looking back, i was still so lost when i wrote this book. HE was freeing me from formulas in parenting, but i was still chained to them in other areas — writing, ministry, etc. Still, GOD revealed some powerful truths to me and Kathy as HE guided us to write this book, proof that HE can still use very imperfect, broken vessels to reach people.
Mom Guilt. It is a familiar visitor in our minds and hearts.
As moms, our internal dialogue can be overwhelming at times, telling us how we’ve fallen short, the things we should or shouldn’t have done, reminding us of all the moms who seem to do it better.
My response to the crushing guilt was to try to be the mom I thought I “should” be or to squeeze myself into someone else’s mothering mold.
After all, they were clearly doing it better. Maybe if I just used their formula, I’d get the outcomes I wanted or the perfect children I thought I should be raising. Maybe then the guilt would stop and the joy would start.
But it never worked, leaving me feeling like an even bigger failure. Sigh. So what does work?
Parenting joy increased and guilt began to flee when I started to embrace the unique mom God made me to be and unique children He gave me.
At one time, i had quotes from other moms and authors recommending my books. The “new me” GOD has made me encourages you to ask for GOD’s recommendation. HE is always led me to exactly the resources i needed for each phase of my journey.
i trust that HE will do the same for you.